God of hope and love,
Today we stand somewhere between peace and joy,
unsure where to find them
in a world where women continue to be subject to violence
because they are women, because they are Indigenous.
Today it is hard for us to imagine the lamb and the lion together,
to know that our hearts will rejoice at the arrival of justice.
And yet we persevere.
We remember, and we persevere.
—an Advent prayer by Sara Stratton, written for the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women and in honour of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls
A couple of weeks ago we chanced upon these two lovely women as we entered the Belleville Library. As you can see they were raising awareness about all forms of misogyny including intimate partner violence. We let them know that our sign was already on the lawn and we let them know our connection with one of their group who is a key person in the Trenton United Church congregation. One of them mentioned that this cause is personal because a beloved member of her family had not survived partner violence.
For many years, 14 lights have shone skyward during a vigil honouring the victims of the Polytechnique attack. Last year, a 15th beam was added in memory of all murdered women. (Ryan Remiorz/Canadian Press - image credit)
Today is the National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women and there will be vigils held in communities across the country, including Montreal where a total of 14 women were murdered in the anti-feminist attack in the Ecole Polytechnique on Dec. 6, 1989. I took part in my first such vigil a couple of days after this terrible event. This was half a lifetime ago for me and at the time we had two young daughters.
The massacre led to tighter gun laws in Canada and greater awareness of violence against women yet In 2024 187 women and girls were violently killed in Canada. Since 1989 the term "femicide" has become more widely used and many communities have declared intimate partner violence an epidemic. As well, different levels of government have dedicated more resources to this scourge. And yet...
For a decade Ruth worked in a shelter for vulnerable women and children and one of her projects was visiting schools to talk to teen boys about what it means to be male and the importance of respect for women. Since those days the level of misogyny online has grown exponentially, included the INCEL movment that led to a mass killing of women in Toronto.
We need to be vigilant not just today but all through the year. Ruth found that while some Christian congregations, including the one I was serving at the time, were open to hearing about the work of the shelter some clergy were not interested, some even claiming that this wasn't an issue in their churches.
We can't forget about what happened in 1989 and what continues to unfold every day in this country. We too can remember and persevere.