The French film Amour is about an elderly couple who live a lovely life which is marked by mutual affection and culture. Then one day at the breakfast table she suffers what seems to be a minor stroke. Even though her recovery seems immediate it is the beginning of profound changes to their lives which become increasingly complicated and exhausting. The acting is remarkable and somehow the story is affecting without becoming maudlin. We slipped into Toronto yesterday afternoon after my emotional announcement during worship and while Amour certainly wasn't "up" it drew us in.
This story resonates with so many I have experienced in ministry. A partner desparately trying to keep a loved one at home even though they may be exhausted or in poor health. Tough decisions which become clouded by the love which has sustained them through the decades. The concern of other family members who are not the caregivers and may live elsewhere.
In Amour we don't see friends, and there is certainly no community of faith to provide support. They are on their own. We can certainly offer practical kindness and compassion within our congregations, and honour the love so many elderly couples demonstrate.
Any plans to see Amour? Do you know people who have gone through this?